I have always taught our children that there are consequences to everything they do or not to. Not that they have totally accepted this of course 🙂 And this article from Sheila Wray Gregoire puts it so well.
Here is an excerpt :
Our society seems to believe that children’s behaviour reflects completely upon parents, and so parents tend to do too much to cover up for kids’ failures. All we’re doing, though, is encouraging irresponsibility. Why not make children responsible for the things that are rightly theirs? If they don’t get their homework done, they fail the test. If they fail the test, they lose TV and video game privileges. No more griping over homework. If teens want a car, they have to pay for the insurance, which means they have to get a job. And if they’re late for that job, they lose it. Their problem, not yours.
If your three-year-old can’t behave on a playdate, you leave. You don’t coax them or bribe them or flatter them. If your eight-year-old can’t find his hockey equipment, he misses the game. End of story.
Read the full blog post at Allowing Kids To Fail.
Sheila Wray Gregoire is a speaker, a columnist, and most of all a mom. She blogs daily at http://www.tolovehonorandvacuum.com, or you can join her Facebook community at http://www.facebook.com/sheila.gregoire.books.
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i absolutely agree. teaching our kids about responsibility from the very beginning is the way to go.
I completely agree! This sounds very much like one of my all-time favourite parenting books, “Parenting with Love and Logic” by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay! 😀