Never Get Married is Part 2 of My 4 Nevers 5-part series where I share my testimony of how God changed my perspective and mindset on so many things. The Introductory Post is found at My 4 Nevers.
In 1989, my ballet school, Sylvia McCully School of Dancing (now McCully Dance Studio) was invited to send some dancers to participate in the highly anticipated official opening of the Singapore Indoor Stadium. The late Lee Kuan Yew, then Prime Minister of Singapore, was to be the Guest-of-Honour.
My Country My Singapore
According to the Straits Times 31 December 1989 article I found online, there were 1,500 performers involved in the musical extravaganza called My Country My Singapore. It would serve not only to officially open the Singapore Indoor Stadium but also to kick-off celebrations for our 25th year of nationhood. They even flew in American stars like The Manhattans and Karyn White (who was famous for the Superwoman song) for the show – anyone remembers them?
SOURCE: http://eresources.nlb.gov.sg/newspapers/Digitised/Article/straitstimes19891231-1.2.5 (just click the “I agree” box to read it.)
Because God
By God’s grace, in the midst the crowds of performers, God led us to each other.
Henson was there, as part of his singing group which won Talentime 1988, while I was one of 6 dancers dancing in the segment with Kaye Hamid. It was a heady experience because at that point in time and since then, I had never been part of something so big. The closest big performance I had been part of before that was at a 1987 or 1988 National Day parade.
Somehow, our two groups ended up sharing a changing room. And the rest, as they say, is history.
But wait…. So how did I change my mind on getting married?
I don’t know.
Seriously.
Only God could have changed my mind, even without me realising it.
Entering Our 25th Year
We met in December 1989 (we both cannot remember exactly when), he proposed on Christmas 1993 and we got married in March 1995.
By God’s grace, we are entering into our 25th year of marriage, with 7 children in tow. You should go over to Henson’s blog and read his version of our meeting in his 18th Anniversary Wedding Video blog post. You can also watch our wedding video there.
And as I had reflected in my 20th Anniversary post, when I met Henson almost 30 years ago, I was not looking for a husband. Therefore I didn’t really bother whether he was husband or father material. I was dating with no long term goal in sight, remember? Now let me tell you that that was NOT a wise move. I highly do NOT recommend it.
God’s Grace
There were so many things that could have gone wrong. We did not have many things in common. He is musically inclined (yes, that’s where the children get it from), I am not. He likes sports and is good at them, I am not. He has a good sense of direction, I do not. He is a Maths and Science person, I am not. So I often wonder how did we end up together and have so many things to talk about? But talk we sure did. And we are still talking – thanks be to God!
But God did not feature in our relationship at all for the first 5 years of our relationship. And yet through it all, God was patiently biding His time. In the end, it was because of getting married that I found myself looking at God.
Only God.
Next Post: Never Be A Stay-At-Home-Mother (aka Housewife)
Related Posts
18th Anniversary Wedding Video by Henson
20th Anniversary