I just realised that I must be the most apathetic person around 🙂 Although I am all for natural birthing, breastfeeding and homeschooling, among other things, I can’t bring myself to push it to others.
Don’t get me wrong. If you come to me enthusiastic about any of those topics, I would most certainly share with you all that I know and help you achieve success in them. But to sell it to someone unsolicited?
Nah! I just can’t do it.
But I am not sure why though. Maybe I am plain tired of the non-interested looks or attitudes of the majority of people who are more interested in following what’s in mainstream society?
Or perhaps I am just tired. 😆
I had tried before to share on breastfeeding, natural birthing and homeschooling but I usually get the “thanks but no thanks” response. And I invariably get a myriad of excuses on why they can’t do it.
Take breastfeeding for example. Most times when I ask if a mom-to-be is planning to breastfeed, I get the standard, “I’ll try”. But anyone who has breastfed will know that one doesn’t just try. You either go all out for it or you’d fail! Even at the hospital when I am trying to share with the mom how to make sure the baby is latched on correctly, you can see the glazed look on the mom’s face. She nods politely but you can tell she’s not interested. So I back off. Shut up.
Recently I heard of someone who has been praying about a supernatural birth but has done nothing to prepare herself for it. She’s just sitting there waiting for it to happen. Hmmm……..
Just today, a friend has been pressing me to educate these moms-to-be about the advantages of a natural, drug-free birth but honestly, I don’t want to. It is really akin to banging one’s head against the wall! They are just not open to hearing anything alternatives to what they have been told.
So perhaps I am just not passionate enough about these topics? For I know there are moms out there who’d be gushing and sharing all they know. I guess these ladies would be most disappointed with me 😀
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hey, i believe God’ll always (somehow) enable someone who needs to hear His truth concerning parenting, breastfeeding, etc, to read /chance upon your site! I’m one of them since last year! I wanted to say i was deeply encouraged by reading ur site. Tx, serene. For those who’d not receive this truth, they’d just read but never truly understood. Hey, that reminds me of what Jesus said on e parable of e seeds. Those who hv ears, let him hear. 🙂
Btw, i attended your parenting talk before i became a mother. Very unfortunate, my gynae induced my both birth.. Well, i must press on n believe in supernatural birth for my future ones! Concerning breastfeeding, i wanted to share tt I breastfed my ds #1 til he was almost 3 years old. I wean him by part because gynae mentioned tt my fertility would only return after i weaned him. Tx be to God, my ds #1 was weaned supernaturally n on his own. A month later, i conceived my second baby. Currently i breastfed ds #2 exclusively. He’s 17 mth..my gynae opined tt i’ve to wean him to be fertile again. 🙁 but i strongly believe God is always in control n He sees my desire to want to have more children cos we believe children are blessings from God! Wanted to say tt when i read one of your many entries concerning getting pregnant w/o having to wean, encouraged me so much! Tx. Hope to write to you to keep in touch. You’ve been a blessing..
Michelle – time to change drs!!! 🙂 Really. Being induced and being told that one MUST wean to conceive…I’d stay FAR AWAY from him/her! You do know that we conceived 5 out of our 7 children while nursing, right? And all of them were solely nursing and only tasting solids (no full meals) at that point in time.
And thanks for your encouraging comments!
I know what you mean about the sharing part. But it is really true that people would only hear what they want to hear and not everyone is willing to pay the price. I just met a new mom last week who told me that she has yet to master the art of breastfeeding and she was feeding her baby the bottle from day 1. I gently told her that she needs to ease off the bottle if she wants to breastfeed successfully and then there was a uncomfortable silence. How to be passionate? Lose a friend and make an enemy?!!!
hi serene
i know what you mean. i think it’s mainly cos we’ve learnt over time tt it’s hard to ‘convert’ a mum who is not willing.
i have a good friend who ‘tried’ to bf her 2 girls but failed to really get it off (tho she did pump for a few months for both). i gave her advice, dropped off a book at her place but in the end i think she just wasn’t willing to give it her all n even resorted to the age-old excuse “i didn’t make enough milk!”.
but recently, i had a great experience supporting a mum who was truly willing and determined to make it work. to make the experience even sweeter, it was one my best n oldest friends.
we had our 1st child within a few months of each other (both girls). she bf-ed her girl for a few mths but was derailed by a colicky bb n her mum who kept casting doubt on her ability to fully bf the wailing bb. then she tried for a 2nd for 5 yrs, all the time praying and trusting in God. tho she visited specialists she n her dh declined to undergo treatment preferring to trust in God n wait for His gift. early last year she finally conceived to much joy n celebration.
she had a very hard pregnancy, was warded for hyperemesis (all this while she was in Jakarta – she’s living there now cos her dh was posted there a few yrs ago) n still had to take care of n homeschool her older girl.
but she was very determined to bf her 2nd one and asked me for tips and advice and i just answered all her questions, shared with her my experiences and gave her as much as info as she could take in – all this through email. last Oct she finally had a beautiful baby girl and she succeeded in bf-ing her fully fr day 1 and is still bf-ing directly and fully now. the baby’s thriving, she’s so thrilled and enjoying it all and she keeps saying thanks to me, her bb is nursing n thriving. i keep telling her no, her bb is thriving n nursing cos she has a very willing n determined mum.
sorry for the long ramble. but this just goes to show tt perhaps we just need to be available to support those who really want our help and support and not try too hard to ‘evangelise’. after all, for some pple these things are not very important or high on their list of priorities. unless they change their mindset/attitude/values it wld be very hard for them to ‘convert’.
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